Like many things in life, Dating is a numbers game. As most of know it is important to make as many contacts as possible, especially in areas outside of your usual interests to improve our chances of making that right contact.

Online dating works well for individuals who are by nature explorative and enjoy a challenge, others who are more insecure or reserved, not so.

Relationships are hard, even those individuals who we have deemed to be perfect, or who we married have flaws and limitations to them, sometimes in important areas that we did not consider.

Online dating approaches the problem of making a connection in two fundamental formats, a Shotgun affect, they throw anyone and everyone you way, and you are required to winnow out who you do not want with little to no information.

The other approach is the Psych Profile format, where you fill out a questionnaire that is supposed to define who and what you are. The basic problem with this format is that neither those who are presenting themselves, or those describing themselves, have only a meager understanding of who they are as individuals.

Most often we only have a basic understanding of what we want, and an idea of what we do not want. This is why we see over and over again Men and Women fall back upon biological responses (Women often ask for Tall and Successful, and Men almost always want Attractive).

Factor into this the fact that societies where arranged relationships have a working success rate equal to and equivalent to societies where individual choice is preferred, this gives an idea of the complexity of finding an appropriate partner.

I am not trying to be negative, I for one love meeting Women. Few I know I would want to alter a substantial part of my life for, however everyone of them add to my life and I treasure for who and what they are.

There is the larger question of whether we as living beings are designed biologically to be permanently connected to only one other person for long, long periods of time?

Joseph